Let’s face it. Dating and relationships are tough. They can take a lot out of you. Some people may feel better being single, and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, being single has a lot of benefits that are attractive to many people.
Before diving into a relationship, you should consider how much you can gain by being single, even for a short time. Sure, everyone wants to love, but no rule says you must rush into it. You should give yourself time to reap all the benefits of single life before you tie yourself down. Here are 15 reasons you should embrace the single life.
15 REASONS TO ENJOY BEING SINGLE
1. YOU CAN BE SELFISH WITH YOUR TIME.
When you’re developing a relationship with someone, you’ll have to dedicate a large chunk of your time to make the relationship work. That’s time that you could be using to do something significant. That’s time that you won’t ever get back.
Don’t ever let anyone make you feel that it’s wrong to be selfish with your time. After all, it’s your time. However, just keep in mind that a relationship will require your time. If you want your time to yourself, stay single.
2. YOU CAN MAKE YOURSELF A PRIORITY.
No one will put you first as you put yourself first. In a lot of cases, it can be challenging to put yourself first when you’re in a relationship. You may find the needs of the relationship supersede your own needs, and you’ll feel obligated to put yourself to the side.
While this isn’t always the case, if this happens, you can start to feel unfulfilled, which will ultimately lead to relationship problems. If you genuinely want to make yourself your priority, embracing single life can prevent you from having conflicting interests.
3. YOU’LL BE ABLE TO DATE WHOMEVER YOU WANT.
Being monogamous may not be the right choice for you. If your upfront about your intentions with the other person, your dating life can be as varied as you want.
Dating isn’t necessarily a commitment, so being single allows you to date who you want when you want with no strings attached. Only you know, deep down inside, if you’re capable of or if you desire to be monogamous. If not, single life is probably your best bet.
4. YOU CAN AVOID RELATIONSHIP PRESSURES.
Building a relationship takes a lot of work, and it can put a lot of pressure on you. With a relationship, you really must be in it to win it. Otherwise, the pressure may cause you to fold. You might end up breaking your partner’s heart.
If the idea of the pressures of a relationship makes you stop in your tracks, you should probably stay single until you’re ready. That’s the best way to make sure you don’t hurt a good person.
5. SAVING MONEY IS EASIER.
Let’s face it – relationships are expensive! You have to worry about fancy dates, birthdays, anniversaries, trips, and more. For men, it can be even more costly since they typically foot the bill more often.
While a partner may not demand that you spend money on them, the relationship will be a bit one-sided if you don’t. If you have financial woes, or if you simply have a goal of saving money, you may want to stay single.
6. YOU CAN AVOID DRAMA IN YOUR LIFE.
Relationships tend to introduce drama into your life, especially if you’re in a bad relationship. Misunderstandings, arguments, and fights can happen. The tension could even come from exes who can’t seem to let go. Even more, drama can come from insecurities and jealousy.
There is an unbelievable number of ways that drama can enter your life through relationships. If you want a sure-fire way to avoid relationship drama, flying solo is a good suggestion.
7. YOU’LL HAVE THE FREEDOM TO GO WHEREVER, WHENEVER.
Some people are like birds and want to fly away whenever the wind feels right. There’s nothing wrong with that – unless you’re in a relationship. A relationship requires a commitment to a person, but many people don’t realize that it also requires a commitment to a location.
Except for relationships that start out long-distance, putting distance in a relationship can result in you ending up single anyway. You may as well stay single until you’re ready to settle down.
8. YOU’LL HAVE TIME TO GET YOUR PRIORITIES IN ORDER.
Sometimes it can be hard to figure out precisely what you want out of life. This is especially true for young people. Figuring it out can require a lot of focus, and a relationship can get in the way of that focus. This doesn’t mean that you can’t get your life together while being in a relationship – people do it all the time. However, being single allows you to put all your focus on your priorities so you can achieve your goals faster.
9. YOU CAN FOCUS ON BUILDING FRIENDSHIPS.
Having great friends is just as important as having a great relationship. In fact, research has shown that the quality of your friends directly impacts your satisfaction in life. So, what does this have to do with being single?
Well, many relationships can consume a lot of your time. Some partners won’t like you to hang with your friends a lot, and that can cause tension in the relationship. You should build solid friendships before hopping into a relationship. After all, even when relationships fail, friendships can last a lifetime.
10. YOU CAN LEARN TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY.
It’s hard to be happy in a relationship when you don’t know how to make yourself happy. Relying on your partner to make you happy all the time is a recipe for disaster. They should add to your happiness, not create it.
If you need to work on making yourself happy, you should do yourself a favor and practice flying solo for a while. Once you learn how to make yourself happy by yourself, you’ll be better prepared for a relationship.
11. JOB PROMOTIONS WON’T CAUSE CONFLICT.
This tip is an extension of tip number seven. Many job promotions come with a need to relocate. If you’re in a relationship, this can put an extreme amount of strain on both of you. In many cases, it can be the end of the relationship.
If you’re single, you won’t feel any guilt about taking a job promotion and having to relocate. You only answer to yourself when you’re single, so you’re free to go wherever you want. Once you’re more settled in your job role, you’ll probably feel more comfortable pursuing a relationship. Until then, embrace the freedom of being single.
12. YOU CAN WORK ON DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL MATURITY.
Sometimes you just aren’t emotionally mature enough for a relationship. That’s okay! Everyone deserves a chance to be young, wild, and free. However, these adjectives aren’t suitable for someone in a relationship, so if this describes you, do everyone a favor and stay single.
Get all your wild partying day over with. Learn how to connect with people and how to put others before you. In other words, grow up before you enter a serious relationship. Until you do, single life is the best life for you.
13. YOU CAN GET BETTER AT BEING DEPENDABLE.
A relationship requires a fair amount of dependability. You may have every intention of being a dependable person, but you need to have your “stuff” together before someone can depend on you. Being single will allow you to focus on becoming that dependable person that a partner will desire.
14. YOU CAN BECOME A BETTER PARTNER.
There are several tips in the list that all go together to make you a better partner for someone. By embracing single the single life for a while, you can work on all the things we’ve mentioned above. Once you’ve gotten a good handle on something, you’ll be prepared for a loving, stable, lasting relationship. Use a single life to make mistakes and learn from them.
15. YOU JUST DON’T WANT TO SETTLE DOWN.
You may be a person that simply doesn’t see yourself settling down now or anytime soon (or anytime at all). There are plenty of people like that, so don’t think you’re odd for feeling this way. However, if you’re aware that you don’t want to settle down, stay single, so you don’t hurt anyone.
When dating, you should make it evident that you aren’t pursuing a relationship, so you don’t confuse people. You also don’t want to have someone clinging to you when you just want to be single.
being singleFINAL THOUGHTS ON BEING SINGLE (AND ENJOYING IT)Choosing to remain single until you’re ready for something more is a very responsible thing to do. There are so many reasons that single life is attractive.
The 15 reasons above are just the icing on the cake.
Enjoy all the perks of single life until you feel that desire to connect with someone on a personal level. Whether that happens sooner or later, you don’t want to have regrets about not living your single life to the fullest.